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High school dancing proposals: Hits or misses?

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Gull Lake High School takes on prom 2018. Photo courtesy of Megan Kiss.


Proposals for high school dances can certainly be a large investment, but the returns makes the stressful process worth it. While deciding who to ask―and how―can weigh heavily on a student’s mind, it is equally (if not more) satisfying to see that hard work come to fruition.

Devising a creative method of asking another student to a dance gets the brain thinking. Envisioning the proposal, then executing the plan is a memorable experience, even before going to an event that will produce even more memories.

Even better, it makes the person being asked feel confident and appreciated. In a society where negativity can run rampant, such as the misuse and attacking of others on social media, a little thoughtfulness or a kind act can go a long way. Each proposal is unique in one way or another, and it’s a nice way to show a willingness to go the extra mile. Utilizing one’s creativeness to produce a unique situation or endearing poster to ask another student to a dance spreads a sense of kindness that can spread across the whole school.

A common concern for dancing proposals are the fears of competing to devise a “better” way of asking a student, but those who worry about such a thing are missing the point. Someone put the brainpower and time into creating a proposal just for another person, which each proposal providing something unique.

It is important to look at and appreciate the positive aspects of dancing proposals instead of jumping to (or fearing) negative impacts. These proposals, no matter how big or small, spread a little more kindness among the student body, and that is certainly welcomed.

by Justin Walker


For years at Gull Lake High School, simply asking your partner to a dance has become more and more difficult with each passing year. Due to teenagers frequent use of social media, these “proposals” are likely to end up online.  As the boy or girl you ask is likely to post the occasion, this creates a significant amount of pressure for the “asker.” The posts that circulate around sites such as Instagram and Twitter the most are likely to be those that are over-the-top and expensive.  This creates unrealistic expectations that few are capable of living up to.

Wouldn’t it instead be much simpler if these expectations were eliminated and the “norm” became simply asking in a nonchalant manner such as: “Hey, wanna go to the dance with me”?  Regardless of whether your potential partner agrees or not, this situation is different then the win-embarrassment scenario that is currently in place. Instead you can either be successful or casually say “that’s fine” without a crowd watching you (it’s not uncommon for promposal fails to end up on social media as well). Another benefit of this potential casual social atmosphere is a change in school body assumptions.  If one spends a significant amount of money or thought, people are likely to assume that the pair have a love interest when they might simply be friends.

Not only are dance proposals damaging to social aspects of student life, but they are also considered disruptive by some schools.  In fact schools in Texas as well as Pennsylvania have actually banned the occurances on school campuses. The principles stated that some proposals that transpired have been degrading to other students, disruptive to learning, difficult for custodians to clean up, and in some cases just dangerous.

by Zach Zahrt

For more information on the positives and negatives of dance proposals, U.S. Daily News has a very intriguing article on their website.

Justin Walker

I’m a senior at Gull Lake High School, and this is my first year on staff. I enjoy writing about our school sports’ programs and other areas as well. Having a deep interest and enjoyment in our English classes at Gull Lake, I’ve decided to pursue a different side of writing by doing newspaper and hope to provide entertaining articles for our viewers. Being involved in sports such as cross country and track, while also being invested to clubs such as Debate and Model UN, I write about topics that affect both myself and classmates.


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